My father

His name is Lungisle Matthew Madolo. He is from Lady Frère. He is the first born. He has seven children. He is a pastor; most important he is a good father.

Having a pillar, provider, and a guider like him in my life, it is a great blessing. He was always there for us when we grew up. He never left us. He is a good father. I am proud to have a father like him. I thank God for making my dad my pillar. I cannot imagine my life without him. He was there when I needed him most. He will always be there for me.

I know out there, there are good dads like you. You are one in the millions. I pray to god to keep you.  I appreciate having you in my life.

May god bless you! I love you daddy! Lots of hugs and kisses!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses

I am a good listener. I have a soft heart. I like assisting people. I understand, I put people’s feelings before mine.

The fact I am a good listener, it makes me struggle sometimes to pour my heart to someone. Sometimes I feel like talking and pouring whatever is bothering me in heart. Before I even start, someone would tell me about his/ her problems and I would have to console or give advice, and after that I would not say anything about my problem because I do not want to trouble him/ her. I would keep it to myself. It would eat me inside until I forget that there is something troubling me. Or I would try to console myself.

See my greatest strength is my greatest weakness. This is not a good thing. I am trying to change this but I guess this is who I am, I cannot change.  I do not like seeing people suffering and I do not want to give them more burdens.

This thing of consoling me sometimes is not right. I also want to pour my heart to someone, who will listen, understand and comfort me.

Try a cliché

A cliché is phrase that has been used so often that is has almost lost its meaning.  It takes two to tango. It is another phrase, and I am going to write about it on this bog.

It is true, it takes two to tango .i did a research about this phrase and the explanation is as follows.  “It takes two to tango is common idiomatic expression which more than one person or other entity are paired in an inextricably-related and    active manner, occasionally with negative connotations”.

They go on explaining the tango as a dance which requires two partners moving in relation to each other, sometimes in tandem, sometimes in opposition.  The meaning of this expression has been extended t to include any situation in which the two partners are by definition understood to be essential as in, marriage with only one partner ceases to be a marriage

Every day is a good day

I disagree with the above statement. That’s not possible. There are some bad days. Yes there are also some good days but not every day.

Imagine having a good day every day. You must be living at your own planet. If you are on this planet forget having a good day every day. Along the day there are many challenges.

Let me talk about the business man, not every day is good to him. Sometimes the business is running very smooth, but on the other day would be another story, business would be slowly.

Parents are not getting good day every day. If their daughter gets pregnant before marriage, it is a bad day for them, whereas if their daughter is graduating it is a good day for them.

 For example you, at school, you find out that you didn’t do well on your exams. That’s a bad day for you, but if you have done well, it’s a good day for you.

Imagine getting a written warning at work for being late or for what so ever and you call that a good day. No,  you must be insane.

I wish every day was a good day. But this wish will never come true!

Elephant is in the room

I have no idea of this phrase. But I did some surfing and I found some explanation about it.

The term is often used to describe an issue that involves a social taboo, such as race, religion, or even suicide. This idiomatic phrase is applicable when a subject is emotionally charged; and the people who might have spoken up decide that it is probably best avoided.

The idiomatic is commonly used in addiction recovery terminology to describe the reluctance of friends and family of addicted person to discuss the person’s problem. Thus aiding  the person’s denial. Especial in reference to alcohol abuse, the idiom is sometimes coupled with that of the pink elephant

I have no idea of this phrase. But I did some surfing and I found some explanation about it.

The term is often used to describe an issue that involves a social taboo, such as race, religion, or even suicide. This idiomatic phrase is applicable when a subject is emotionally charged; and the people who might have spoken up decide that it is probably best avoided.

The idiomatic is commonly used in addiction recovery terminology to describe the reluctance of friends and family of addicted person to discuss the person’s problem. Thus aiding  the person’s denial. Especial in reference to alcohol abuse, the idiom is sometimes coupled with that of the pink elephant

Feelings follow behavior

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hatever feeling   you have will lead to a certain behavior. There is this girl who was impregnated by her father at the young age.  She grew up feeling bad about herself. She had low self esteem. She hated her father for ruining her life. She cursed the day, she was conceived and the day she conceived her son.

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eeling bad like this while growing up made her not to love her child. She did not give her child mothers love. How was she supposed to love her child, when she could not love herself?  She left her home when the child was only two months and never came back.

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he decided to come back, thinking that she would be able to face her father, after what he did to her.  She couldn’t face her father.  Whenever she looks at her son, she was angry. She decided to kill her father and her son. She thought by killing her dad and son, would feel alright. And that did not help at all.  She decided to kill herself. And that was the end of her life.

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he felt bad and couldn’t leave with this feeling.  Anger led her to commit murder and suicide.