My mother

I dedicate this blog to my late mother!  Nowethu Sindiswa Phambuka Madolo. She was my pillar. She guided me.  She was never afraid to correct me. She was always there for me. She gave me mothers love. Because of her love, I am able to love my son.

She was independent, strong, sassy, and neat.  She was not afraid of death. She once told me that one day she will pass away and I should learn to be independent and loving. She did not like liars and lazy people. She was honest, hard worker and caring. I remember when things were not going well; she always told me “everything is going to be alright”.

She believed in herself. She taught me lots of things about life. Now I can face any challenges in life. She was very strict and loving at the very same time. I miss her tough love.

She will always be in my memories. I wish I could see her just once. I miss her smile, wise words, tough love, warmth hug and everything about her. She stood up for herself and truth. Today I am honest because of her. I have respect for other people. She taught me well.

 

 I love you mom! I will always do!

 

 

Definition Respect

 

 

 

I dedicate this blog to people who do not understand the word NO! On a practical level respect includes taking someone's feelings, needs, thoughts, ideas, wishes and preferences into consideration. It means taking all of these seriously and giving them worth and value. In fact, giving someone respect seems similar to valuing them and their thoughts, feelings, etc. It also includes acknowledging them, listening to them, being truthful with them, and accepting their individuality and idiosyncrasies.

Respect can be shown through behavior and it can also be felt. We can act in ways which are considered respectful, yet we can also feel respect for someone and feel respected by someone. Because it is possible to act in ways that do not reflect how we really feel, the feeling of respect is more important than the behavior without the feeling. When the feeling is there, the behavior will naturally follow.

Every human being and nation, irrespective of their power or strength, has the right to be respected. “Respect is an unassuming resounding force, the stuff that equity and justice are made of.”[1] It means being treated with consideration and esteem and to be willing to treat people similarly. It means to have a regard for other peoples’ feelings,[2] listening to people and hearing them, i.e. giving them one’s full attention. Even more importantly, respect means treating one with dignity. Respect is the opposite of humiliation and contempt. So where the latter can be a cause of conflict, the former and its opposite can help transform it. As William Ury writes in his book The Third Side: “Human beings have a host of emotional needs- for love and recognition, for belonging and identity, for purpose and meaning to lives. If all these needs had to be subsumed in one word, it might be respect”

So my fellow friends respect me when I say no. when I say I’m Ntsikie not B…….y! You should stop calling me that! You know what I’m talking about! Love you…………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It’s better to practice a little than to talk a lot

Talking a lot is a waste of time. There is this friend of mine. She always has something to say, but no actions. She is wasting her time mumbling. Why I say, she is mumbling, it’s because whatever she says give no sense.

She does not like working. She does not have a job but she wants a man with money. She is always saying “I want a better job” but her CV is not updated, to be honest she does not have a CV. How is she going to job hunt without a CV.? One day I told her about the position which was available but she did not apply for it. I keep on wondering why she lies to herself.  Saying something that you are not going to do, it’s lying to yourself. 

I also used to talk a lot but no actions. I wanted to lose weight. I did not attend gym was not eating healthy, I was wearing size 36. I was always saying,” I want to lose weight”.  How was I going to lose weight, because I was not eating healthy and did not attend gym?  I did not put my words into practice.

 Last year I started going to gym and I lost weight. This year I decided to eat healthy and I lost more weight. Now I am wearing size 32.  Now I am proud I did something. From size 36 to 32, it is a lot of work. It’s better to practice a little than to talk a lot

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wedding cake in the middle of the road

Wedding cake in the middle of the road

It was Saturday morning. The sun was shining. Everyone was excited. The venue was decorated very nice.  Catering team was hired. Wedding dress and suite were designed by a well known designer. It was a beautiful morning. Both families were happy and excited, their daughter and son were getting married. 

The only thing was not there, it was a wedding cake. It was supposed to be delivered before eight. The wedding ceremony was starting at ten. The bakery was delaying. The delivery guy called to apologise for the inconvenience they caused, but he promised to deliver it before 10 o’clock.

Ten o’clock passed the wedding cake was not there, and the bridegroom was already in church waiting for his bride. He received a call from his bride. “Baby the wedding cake is not delivered yet and I can’t go to church until it is delivered”. Bridegroom said” ok my love I will make a plan”.  He did not tell her, his plan. He went out the church, he got into his car, he drove fast to fetch the wedding cake. He got the wedding cake. On his way back to church, he got an accident. He did not stop, the robots were red, but he could not wait. He was driving very fast.  He never make it on his wedding. He passed away.  Wedding cake was messed up and full of his blood and glasses of windscreen. The wedding cake was in the middle of the road.

The wedding was off. The bridegroom was death and wedding cake was in the middle of the road. That was sad.